Bully/Beef

[Jade]

I am getting a bit fed up with the whole bullying debate. It seems that if you ask someone to do something a bit hard, and do not accept poor performance then you are bullying them

If you get cross when someone screws up they can play the bully card

No environment can ever be described as "robust" or "high velocity" without also attracting the B word

Cant we just accept that in some places, jobs, relationships there are going to be lots of personal and professional demands made on one that one is expceted to meet?

And if one does not meet them one is found wanting?

If you cannot bear to have that applied to you, then don't enter the fray.

Or is that discriminatory?

[admin]

not hard at all.

much like pain, different people have different thresholds.

gentle ribbing>fond teasing>teasing with a definite edge>bullying lite> bullying> full on Gordon Browning accompanied by loss of temper on the part of the bullee and possibly tears on the part of the bullied.

[jean]

I think bullying has to be calculating and targeted.

Losing your rag with your subordinates, however nasty and even frightening it may be, isn't bullying.

[jamesjosh]

My view is that bullying is when the motivation of the actions/comments is to destroy someone's self esteem.